Bringing the Spark Back

We all know that life gets stressful, and there are times that you just cannot focus on your spouse or partner as much as he or she deserves. We know that as time goes on, the less attention that you give to, and receive from your loved one the more tension that it places on your relationship. Well, before you get to the brink of disaster, you need to take action to bring the spark back, so that the flame of desire and the flame of love does not die out.
Here are some tips to help you make sure that your relationship stays on track, and that you are doing everything you can to ensure happiness as a couple.

• Make time for each other, everyday. What matters is that you are making the time. Yes, it could only be five minutes in passing before work, or five minutes before your head hits the pillow, but you two are spending time together. My favorite way to do this is by watching a favorite show together from our TiVo, before we go to sleep for the night, but after our son is down. It’s alone time without a sitter! Then, during commercials, we talk about our day, and dreams, hopes, and goals.

• Do a weekly date night, if possible. If not, at least monthly. Okay, so depending on your children’s ages, your schedules, etc… it may be nearly impossible to go on a date every week. If you can though, make it a point to something together at home even after the kids are in bed, which simulates a date. At least once a month, go out and do something together that allows you to be a couple, without parenting, or anything else involved.

• Never close the lines of communication. Always talk to your partner, and make time to do so. Even if it’s about the daily grind, it keeps you talking. The worst blow any relationship can take is no longer talking to each other!

• Do something each day that makes the other person smile. A surprise hug, kiss, or any action that will make your partner smile is a great way to make sure the spark rekindles. It’s a great way to show you care.

• Go back to the times when you first fell for one another, and think about what it was that did it. Mimic this as often as you can. If you never lose sight of what made you fall for this person in the first place, you’ll never have trouble rekindling that fire!

There’s no magic formula to follow, of course, but any and all of these things will certainly help to keep you happy, and let each other know that you still care, even in the midst of a crazy, hectic, life that you have built together.

When you are feeling down on your luck with love, what are some of thing things you do to bring the spark back? Share your ideas below, because we all can use a little help!

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