Definition of a Mother

Happy Mother’s Day!  I have been a mother only four years, but in the interest of the holiday today, I thought it would be the perfect time to address my thoughts on what a Mother really is.  It’s my way of making sure that I am doing everything in my power to be a good mother, whilst attempting to thank and show appreciation to my own mother for all that she has done.

A Mother is….strong, dedicated, and one hell of a force to contend with.   To be a Mother, we have to be strong for our children, dedicated to our children, and work for our children whilst sometimes working against them.  Our children will realize this only when they become parents themselves; and until then we must keep going forward with our duties. 

Being strong for our children means protecting them from the harm and pain we can, allowing them to get (and helping them) through the pain and harm that we cannot stop or had no control of (from the simple knee scrapes, to the relationship woes, to the death in the family..etc) without letting them see our own.

Being dedicated to our children means doing what is best for them, no matter what it may cause for the others around us.  If moving away from our home is best for our children because of the opportunities it will afford them, we must do it in spite of the pain it causes both ourselves, and our children–as this will pass… and we must strive for constant betterment.

Being a force to contend with means that we must stand for our children whenenver, wherever, and against whoever is necessary.  Yet, because the very child we aim to defend and protect with our lives and everything we have may have need protection from themselves at some point we must be prepared to defend them by working against them in order to show them our dedication to their happiness, health, and safety.

A Mother is….bewildering, strange, and at times insane.  From the standpoint of our children, we will be considered anything and everything under the sun at any given point in time until they begin to understand exactly what being a parent means, and what is required of one.  As a person, we will contemplate what life was like before we ever became a Mother, how we ever lived without our children, and how we balance all the things that are on our plates at any given moment…most of the time with joyful thoughts.  However, there will be moments when we glance at our lives and scream wishing we could go back to those carefree days that our children are currently living; but we will do so secretly, and no true desire to rid the world of our children.  This is what makes us strange, and insane.

A Mother is…purely amazing.  For the lack of better phrasing, and more time (because I am a mother who must tend to my child, and other responsibilities as such) this is the only other thing I can say. 

What women do to become mothers, as mothers, for mothers, and everything in between where her children and family are concerned is nothing short of amazing!  It does not matter how long she has been a mother, how many children she has, her economic, marital,or any other status–she is amazing, because she puts herself second in her own life–for her children, forever.

It was much harder to write this without getting sappy than I thought!

I hope each and everyone of you that are mothers reading my blog right now have been celebrated and appreciated the way you deserve to be.  Now, I could read this each day and think of something to add or take away from it; so, please tell me what you think a mother is, and maybe together we can all come with something truly grand!

Am I right?  Wrong?  What is a Mother to you?