My Sari is having trouble at school again. She’s 10, she’s ahead of the curve in so many ways that I forget how young she and innocent she really is. And that she still needs many hugs.
She dropped a “b” bomb at school a couple weeks ago. “Kaylie is a bitch.” That’s what she said to another girl. It got back to Kaylie who really IS a bitch, who reported it to the teacher. Not a big deal was made out of it because Kaylie and Sari have been at each other since 1st grade. But that week my angel Sari used the “b word” again. This time to no one in particular, using her Nintendo dsi, broadcast out too everyone within range on the way to a field trip. One day suspension she got from that.
Troubles have continued since then with Kaylie stealing away Sari’s best friend. Then stealing away the next friend that Sari started hanging out with. Now she roams the black top alone at recess, is black balled at the lunch table, and excuses herself to the bathroom to weep a little bit so no one sees how sad she is that she suddenly has no bff or the possibility of getting one because as soon as she does, the mean girls will steal her away.
Oh boy! So we went out for some girl time this weekend. Dinner, shopping, book store and chit chat. I left her in the kids area for a bit while I looked in the gift area at a digital frame to showcase my family. I perused PHILOSOPHY, WOMEN’S INTERESTS, LITERATURE, and HEALTH. When my kids are not “thriving” I feel like I am failing somewhere. Like I’m not smart enough. Not taking things seriously enough. Not focusing enough on my family. Nothing felt right. But then Sari came running to where I stood with Ayn Rand in one hand and Nanny Jo in the other. She said so excitedly, “I found just what you’re looking for Ma!”
I looked at what she was holding up and nodded. Yep, she was right. I realized how in tune my daughter and I are and that we are all going to be okay. We walked hand in hand to the counter to pay for our books. She – Allie Finkle and Pokemon, I – the John Mayer issue of Rolling Stone.
Wow is it really that hard to get a friend these days. I’ll say that Kaylie really is a B*tch. She should lay off her. I think it might be a good thing to talk to one of the teachers.
Such a nice thing or activity done by you. Spending quality time with your daughter is showing her the love and care for them.
I remember having a classmate like Kayle when I was a child, she was a bitch, she stole all my friends away, and she stole my boyfriends away in high school.
Kaylie doesn’t deserve to be called your friend…a more diplomatic way of saying that she’s a complete b*tch. (nasty person…)
And as Michelle said, it is harder and harder to find good and reliable friends nowadays…today’s people are superficial, annoying and egocentric.
If you decide to spend more time her, is not enough. You have to spend more than more time with her. The family is the best partner for cinema, sport activity, entertain, shopping, eating, etc… Children need the love more than the freedom.
Thanks everyone! I really hesitated spilling the beans that my sweet pea dropped the B bomb, but you all seem really accepting and comfortable with it. LOL.
Michelle we did talk to teachers, principal and counselor. The thing is it is very easy to punish someone for swearing… but how can they really get involved when the other girl is just antagonizing and luring her friends away? There’s no “rule” about that in school, you know?
Bingo I totally remember the agony of being dumped by best friends in elementary school. It’s tough stuff!