Prioritize Thy Self


Hey Ladies! Have you done your workout yet today? No? Then quit reading right now and pound that treadmill. I’ll meet you back here in 30!  Otherwise you will have a less fabulous and less than productive day. Here are the top ten reasons for taking care of yourself and the top ten ill effects of not.

BENEFITS OF BEING FIT, HEALTHY, AND NOT IGNORED
• Better sleep and earlier to rise which adds more valuable hours to your day
• More energy to avoid crashing in the afternoon, interfering with the day’s obligations.
• Less aches and pains, increased strength and flexibility
• Happier
• Increased swimsuit confidence to enjoy beach and water parks with kids
• Clear skin and more youthful appearance
• More focused on the many tasks to be completed at work and at home
• Being a healthy role model for your kids
• Feeling sexy and improved relationship with spouse
• People respect you when YOU respect you

DISADVANTAGES OF NOT TAKING CARE OF YOURSELF

(better make sure you have a variety of life insurance types in place because this road leads to less vibrant and long lasting life.)
• Low energy and need for frequent naps
• Decreased production
• Aches and pains
• Stiffness and lack of flexibility
• Aged skin and overall appearance
• Swimsuit fear and missed fun in the sun time with kids
• Lack of confidence which effects everything negatively
• Lower performance at work
• Tendency to draw away from people
• You’re teaching your daughter a pattern of not taking care of HER self.

 

As parents we often feel guilty to put our needs above anyone else’s, when, in fact, the best way we can take care of those around us and meet all their needs IS to first meet our own needs so we have the power and resources to take care of everyone else.  So what will it be today… Turbo Jam?  Or Hip Hop Abs?

Sacrifices and Such

As mothers and wives we make sacrifices, don’t we ladies? We prepare food to please the household, give up girl time/me time if it means someone else can do something important to them, our tv viewing changes, we give up Eminem for Kids Bop, and we never take the last donut. If you’re like me you don’t really mind because none of those things makes you as happy as does the happiness of your family. But when they’re gone and you find yourself alone for a day or two in the house – You can get wild and have whatever you want! For me this weekend, while Hubs & kids went tubing to give me some time to catch up at work, that meant CHICKEN NACHOS! Mmhm. With lots of spicy pepper, onions, scallions, and cilantro. Not your “family” nachos at all. And ohh yeeeahhh –

I blackened the edges of the chips just a little bit.  Is your mouth watering? Mine was! Too bad my V3 was still going strong and only let me eat a few bites. Barely made a dent in it! Just wait til Mama’s mojito time later. I’ll make up for it then.  😉 What tiny things have you given up that didn’t fit in with family life? 

 

Sibling Rivalry

I don’t really have any tips or advice to offer on this topic.  I actually need your help.  My kids fighting is driving me nuts!

I have mentioned before how much I love Supernanny but I have learned that that love has limits.  When I am watching the show, in a good and calm state of mind, I absorb everything like a sponge.  It all makes sense.  But when I am fired up and looking for specific guidance she just ticks me off.  At those times I want to beat her over the head with her “techniques”.  I like SAYING “technique” when talking about the solution to a problem that does not affect me.  But I don’t like it being recommened to me when I am in a foul mood.

I also don’t want to be told how to breathe properly (a breathing technique!) to diffuse my heightened irritation.  I looked up “ADD” in her guide, at a time I was fired up, and she told me that I had to just accept the fact that I couldn’t be in control of every situation when it comes to my ADD kid, that I needed to learn to compromise.  And breathe.  Doesn’t that sound crazy?

I guess it really doesn’t now that I think about it from a calm state of mind.  That breathing thing is a great tip.  I taught my kids to use it themselves when they are frustrated with me or one another.  Funny that they have mastered it when it comes to me.  They can handle their anger through breathing when it comes to me but not when dealing with each other.

The only trigger involved when the fights begin between my son and daughter is that they are both present.  As soon as on walks in the same room as the other BAM! They are poking and prodding and yelling at each other.  In all other areas my kids are great.  For the most part they listen, they do their chores, they do homework and work hard at school, but when they get in their zone they cannot even hear me trying to settle them down.

I was an only child and I cannot understand this behavior.  I guess when it gets right down to it, it is not the issue of handling it that is turning me gray, but just understanding WHY.

Anyone?

Everything Family Issue 4

Welcome to the August 5, 2008 edition of everything family. This is my first time being in charge of the carnival and I am blown away by all the good stuff we’ve received.  Thanks everyone for your submissions!  I’ll be over to check out your blogs soon!

Enjoy!

Madeleine Begun Kane presents Quick Story & Other Verse (Limerick & Haiku Prompt) posted at Mad Kane’s Humor Blog.

Tony Chen presents How Tiger Woods inspires my parenting posted at Savvy Daddy.

Phylameana presents Necessities for the New Grandmother posted at Spiral Visions, saying, “When I became a first time grandmother my sister welcomed me into grand-parenthood with a box filled with goodies to help the adjustment into this very important life role.”

Michael Snyder presents The Los Lunas Decalogue Stone – How In The World Did The Ten Commandments Get To America Before Columbus Did? posted at Shattered Paradigm.

David Cassell presents College Credit Transfer posted at selectcoursesblog.com.

Sheila Danzig presents What Makes Online Nursing Degrees So Popular? posted at The Degree Blog.

Jennifer Johnson presents Pregnancy-The State of Mind posted at MommyABCs.com, saying, “Pregnancy”

Jennifer Johnson presents Saving Money at Home posted at MommyABCs.com, saying, “diapers, saving money, coupons, generics”

Busy Bee Kim presents Give Your Summer a Theme! posted at Busy Bee Lifestyle.

Pearl Widsom presents Meet the HippieBaby posted at Pearls of Wisdom.

Shaheen Lakhan presents How Do We Feed Our Children? posted at Brain Blogger, saying, “How in the world do we find out what to feed our children? What’s the most important factor? Is there a most important factor?”

Modern Parent presents Summer Fun – Everyone into the Pool! posted at The Modern Parent: baby product reviews, parenting advice, and tips, saying, “This is post about my sons first trip in a swimming pool! Also includes a few items we like to take along for fun in the sun.”

James Chambers presents Does Being Overweight Cause Increased Sweating? posted at Hyperhidrosis.

Concerning Kids presents How to Handle a School Yard Bully posted at Concerning Kids.

James Brausch presents Five Lifestyles That Do Lead To Weight Loss posted at Weight Loss Dude.

David Cassell presents Feel The Pain posted at selectcoursesblog.com.

Dads

GP presents Lessons Dad Still Teaches Me posted at Innstyle Montana- Come on Inn, saying, “Lessons dad still teaches me”

Homework. Dinner. Life. presents Wow, Dude, You Can Cook on the Grill? I. Am. Not. Impressed. – recent posts – Homework. Dinner. Life. posted at Angela Norton Tyler.

John Frank presents The Diaper Change that Never Ends posted at Harrowed Parent, saying, “Love requires sacrifice every now and then.”

Jeremy Neal presents What Dads Really Think About Quality Time posted at Discovering Dad.

Jeff Tincher presents Why My Kids Want Mommy So Much? posted at Daddys Toolbox.

Family

Jeff Tincher presents How I Spent My Father’s Day posted at Daddys Toolbox, saying, “Just wanted to share my Father’s Day events with everyone. Please visit my Dad blog when you have a chance.”

Everything Finance presents Simple Foreclosure Solutions posted at Everything Finance.

Mike Remer presents A Great Weight Reducing Secret | My Path To Fitness Blog posted at My Path To Fitness Blog.

James Chambers presents Hyperhidrosis Causes posted at Hyperhidrosis.

Mathilde Rufenacht presents Fruit pie, whipped cream, and why the calories are not always where you think posted at Shop’NCook blog, saying, “This is what happened when my husband, well intentioned, sprayed whipped cream on our cake at a parents’ barbecue party…”

Mother Hen presents Pay to Shop? posted at Mother Hen.

Michael Ritchason presents The view from up here: The cable guy posted at The view from up here.

Andrew Heath presents Privilege to Be with a Loved One at the Time of Death posted at Andy, saying, “My dad was one of my greatest heroes. This is my tribute to his legacy.”

sarah presents Directory of NYC museum free/pay-what-you-wish days posted at SARAHSPY.

Jeff Sullivan presents Cheap and Free Things To Do In Branson posted at Branson Travel Attractions.

Jennifer Johnson presents Stay At Home Moms posted at MommyABCs.com, saying, “Tips for Stay at Home Moms and Working Dads”

Jenny presents Kids Say The Darndest Things posted at the so called me.

Barbara Schreiber presents The Case Against Same-Sex Marriage by Dr. Allan Carlson | Britannica Blog posted at Britannica Blog, saying, “Intriguing discussion of same-sex marriages with a follow-up discussion: http://www.britannica.com/blogs/2008/06/same-sex-marriage-in-california-whats-love-got-to-do-with-it/”

:: Suzanne :: presents overheard posted at :: adventures in daily living ::.

GP presents The Innside Scoop is Out posted at Innstyle Montana- Come on Inn, saying, “The innside scoop on traveling”

Brent Diggs presents Little Known Ways to Get Your Spouse to Attend Your Anniversary* posted at The Ominous Comma.

Moms

Carole Fogarty presents 10 Rocking Rejuvenation Tips To Grab On The Run For June: posted at THE HEALTHY LIVING LOUNGE.

Jennifer Johnson presents SEX, MARRIAGE, AND KIDS posted at MommyABCs.com, saying, “Tips to Recover the Romance”

Other

Tip Diva presents Tip Diva | Top Ten Tips – If Your Wallet Is Stolen posted at Tip Diva, saying, “Tip Diva unfortunately had her wallet stolen yesterday. Luckily, her ATM card and driver’s license were not in the wallet, but the perp decided to buy $200 worth of train tickets using her credit cards. Here’s what to do in case your wallet is stolen”

Tip Diva presents Tip Diva | Top Ten Tips – Throwing A Surprise Party posted at Tip Diva, saying, “Parties are always fun – especially if it’s a surprise for the guest of honor! Surprise parties, however, can be tricky to pull off, unless you do a little planning first”

Tip Diva presents Tip Diva | Top Ten Tips – Finding A High School Summer Job posted at Tip Diva, saying, “If you have nothing to do during your summer break, you may want to earn some extra cash by getting a job. There are a lot of opportunities out there for high school students, if you know where to look”

Matt M presents Less Product for Same Price posted at Can’t Afford Life.

Matt M presents Dog’s In The Kitchen posted at The Pet Haven, saying, “Dogs are always part of my family, even when we cook.”

Jason Rusch presents More Useful Boxer Dog Training Tips posted at boxerdogessentials.com.

Larry Russell presents Living Expense Tracking Methods posted at Pasadena Financial Planner.

Parenting

David B. Bohl presents The Difference Between a Dad and a Father posted at Slow Down Fast Today!, saying, “A dad is someone who not only physically helped to create the life of a child, but also supports that child with the basic necessities (food, clothing and shelter) and provides guidance and advice to see his child through life.”

Jeremy Neal presents Top 10 Discoveries About Being a Good Dad posted at Discovering Dad.

David presents Bad Credit Loans Tailored For Single Parents posted at Pirate Bricks, saying, “Single parents are more likely to need finance than married couples who count on two incomes.”

Jane @ Kidzarama presents How to Remove a Tooth… posted at Kidzarama, saying, “Or, “My Grandma Has a Mean Right Uppercut”.”

Julie Heath – More4kids Inc. presents Top 10 Tips for Parenting a Contrary Kid posted at More4kids.

Jennifer Johnson presents Potty Time posted at MommyABCs.com, saying, “Potty training”

Holly Ord presents Is the Media Promoting Teen Pregnancy? posted at Menstrual Poetry.

Heather Johnson presents Guests: Dealing With the IRS and Parents Send Mixed Messages to Children posted at The Kaitlyn Mae Book Blog.

Jenny presents Get Road Ready This Summer posted at The Inner Shopper.

Jennifer Johnson presents Medicine Bag posted at MommyABCs.com, saying, “Suggestions for your diaper bag.”

Jennifer Johnson presents Toddler ABC?s and 123?s posted at MommyABCs.com, saying, “Teaching Your Toddler”

Jennifer Johnson presents Spending Time – Making Memories posted at MommyABCs.com, saying, “Spending Time With Your Kids”

Terry Candee presents The Relaxing ? Tween Years posted at Bonding Moms & Daughters To Navigate Our Crazy World ……….Oh Yeah AND Crafts!!!, saying, “Thought you could relax now that junior can fix his own snacks? Fat chance, it’s time to coach, drive the taxi and host sleepovers!”

P.L. Frederick presents Baby Bottom Business posted at Small and Big, saying, “I see a lady changing diapers…

(Thanks for your consideration!)”

Write From Karen presents Parenting: Do You Like Your Childrens Friends? posted at Write From Karen, saying, “How well do you like your childrens’ friends? Are they a positive influence? Visit to learn how my teenage boys have dealt with their changing friendships this past year – and how I’m using these changes as an excuse to try and teach them a thing or two about growing up.”

Kevin Heath presents Top 10 Tips for Raising Your Childs Self Esteem posted at More4kids.

Tip Diva presents Top Ten Tips – Keeping Bored Children Amused posted at Tip Diva, saying, “School’s out for the summer, which, for many parents and caretakers, usually means more wails of, “I’m booooored!” from children who just don’t know what to do with their classroomless-days. Here are some suggestions”

Tip Diva presents Tip Diva | Top Ten Tips – Keeping Kids Safe Online posted at Tip Diva, saying, “Recent news such as the Megan Meier cyber bullying case, a Washington kidnapping and numerous child porn arrests have highlighted the need for increased Internet safety for children. But the best protection starts at home, with parents or guardians. Here are ways to keep your child safe online”

Chris Christensen presents Traveling with Small Children – Amateur Traveler Episode 142 posted at The Amateur Traveler Podcast – travel for the love of it, saying, “The Amateur Traveler talks to Debbie from http://DeliciousBaby.com about traveling (internationally) with small kids: why not just stay home, how to cope with the airport and long flights, and destinations that are great for kids.”

Metaliphe presents Division of Labor Issues posted at Chandra Unplugged – No nonsense, Straight-up blogging from a Life Coach, saying, “How’s the division of labor in your house?”

Jennifer Johnson presents WHOSE DOG IS THIS, ANYWAY?! posted at MommyABCs.com.

Jennifer Johnson presents WHAT AM I GOING TO DO WITH YOU??? posted at MommyABCs.com.

Jennifer Johnson presents The Dreaded??I?m Bored!? posted at MommyABCs.com.

That concludes this edition. Submit your blog article to the next edition of everything family using our carnival submission form. Past posts and future hosts can be found on our blog carnival index page.

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Somebody Pinch Me!

I cannot believe that I am here.  I especially cannot believe that you are here reading this!  You know, it has been a dream of mine to write when I grew up.  I wanted to write novels and I wanted to have my own column in the newspaper.  (There was no internet when I was planning my life back then!)  Well as we all know, life happens.  Sometimes the best laid out plans go south.  Instead of writing a best seller I got comfy at my desk jobs and went down that path. 

How about you?  Are you on the path you planned all those years ago?  If you’re not, it’s not too late!

At a very young age I decided on and believed wholeheartedly in 4 things.

  • I was too shy for a wedding and eloping was the way to go for me.
  • There were too many kids in the world without parents and I was going to give some of them a home one day.
  • I would be a writer. 
  • Women in their 40s are beautiful and smart and I couldn’t wait to get there. (this one actually developed in my 20s when the stress and chaos of the real world started kicking in)

That was it.  A pretty simple plan.  I am not aware that I took conscious steps at the time to get there, but I truly did believe in all those things so maybe I went on autopilot!

  • I eloped when I was 31.
  • I adopted Sari 3, and Drew 7, when I was 35.
  • I am turning 40 this December, I’ve started writing again, and for the first time I see the future before me that I dreamed was possible all those years ago. 

I didn’t even realize I was actively checking the big things off my life list until recently when I was feeling sorry for myself and counting my misfortunes, when I realized all my blessings. I am now a wife, a mom, a writer, and hopefully approaching a calm and wise 40. I snapped out of it and went after life again.  That’s what this blog is about for me.  Going after life.

Let’s go after it together, shall we?  

What’s that one thing you haven’t accomplished yet?