Swimming in My Thoughts Today

I can’t believe summer is almost over. It has flown by for us – and not necessarily because we have been having fun. Because we haven’t. Between the rapid decline in my Father In Law’s health and the recent bipolar diagnosis of my Son, it’s been more hectic than anything else. My Daughter is already looking forward to school. I wish we had a pool so that  when vacation plans don’t pan out or there is no time to go to the lake, we could still cool off from the scorching hot Michigan sun, and relax and have some fun together.

I always wanted a pool when I was a kid. Every year my Mom said, “next year we are getting a pool.” I believe she thought so, and that she and my Dad really wanted to, but the commitment kept them hesitating. When you’re a kid you don’t think about chemicals, pumps, and pool liners. You just think about splashing, diving, and floating. I didn’t get that then, but I do now. As much as I would love to take a dip with the kids every day and know what an impact it would make on the premature summer boredom, I still hesitate.

At $15 to $25,000 as an average cost for an inground pool like we want, cost is definitely a deterrent, especially because we never intended to be in this house for so long. But with the current real estate market and our upside down value, we are not going anywhere too soon, so we have deleted that fact from the minus column. Even so, we can’t help but question the common sense in taking on a new bill in a recession, especially when we have been so affected – as an autoworker and real estate agent. Even just the operating costs, whether for an inground or above ground pool, would cause a little discomfort right now, so ultimately, that’s the reason we are sans swimming pool, I guess. Maybe next year.

I can’t help but wonder, though, if the enjoyment of the pool would outweigh the burden of cost. Pool owners – what do you have to say about that? I have been told that if you want to get a pool next year you should start shopping at the end of this year because pool companies negotiate more and savings could be a bundle. Now I’m confused all over again. :)

Summer’s First Perfect Moment

Been dabbling on the back deck since 6:30 am, trading between wiping down patio furniture and reading Wayne Dyer. It was quiet and still. The time right now is 8:39 am. The soft sound of wind chimes and chatter among the birds is now fighting to be heard over the sounds of children squawking & crying, plastic toys being clanked together, and doors being opened & closed. But there was a moment in between there that was so perfect.

I felt it coming and leaned my head back, closed my eyes, and took a deep breath to experience it- where everything began to wake up at once. Too many sounds came alive at the same time to identify all of them. The volume increase was gradual but quick. A bird, some birds, car doors, cars starting, road noise, lawn mowers… And then the voices. People just can’t keep quiet for very long. Some of them even yammer on in their sleep.

My puppy scratching at the door to come outside snapped me out of my meditation. Then I heard my own voice join the noise of the others as I call Hobo from running into the neighbor’s yard to chase their dog. Then yelling at the kids not to let Hobo in because his feet are wet. Of course from inside someone let him in anyway. Gradually my voice got louder, just like the neighbors and the birds. “Don’t let him on the furniture! Somebody wipe his feet.”

My perfect time is now over. Soon people will be squabbling inside, the garage door will slam up. If I’m going to get breakfast today I better make my sunrise surprise wheat grass smoothie before the first “mom” is uttered and my day is turned over to everybody else.


When we get a little deeper into the summer I’ll have some perfect evening moments too, after everyone’s in bed – keeping toasty by the outdoor fire pit, sipping a mojito made from the fresh mint sprigs grown on my patio, and listening to the people, the birds, and the road noise all get quiet for the night.


What’s the perfect moment in your day?

Saying Goodbye to Summer

You know what I loved best about this summer?  Sitting on the back deck, sipping Starbucks or mojito, chit chatting with Hubby while the kids jumped on the trampoline and chased lightning bugs into the night.

My kids don’t really get to enjoy a lazy summer.  They still have to get up in the morning to go to work with me and show houses.  Not as early, of course because my appointments don’t start as early as school and there isn’t as much to accomplish before we leave.  But while other kids are out swimming or riding bikes, mine are riding around in a car and if they’re lucky, they get to explore some cool houses.

I feel bad a lot about how hard they work with me which is why when evening comes, dinner has been cleaned up and loose ends of the day tied up, we turn off our phones and head out to the backyard just to relax and be together.  The only thing that could have made it any better was some outdoor lighting. I keep saying I am going to get some festive hanging lights or one of those patio fireplaces, but other things just keep coming up, you know?

I guess things always will come up and there will always be things that need to be done and threaten to eat up all of our fun time.  That’s why this summer’s evenings were so important.  Now I need to find a winter time replacement.  Any ideas?